How to close the perpetual worrying about worrying loop.

In the ongoing saga that is my son and him crying in school, today we seem to have, finally, closed a loop.

And it reminded me of programming and made my geeky little heart glad. Not that I’m a programmer. We don’t let El touch code! 😉

But I digress.

I got to thinking about us, the adults, and how we tend to worry about what ifs and maybes.

My son had got himself to a point where he didn’t have anything to worry about other than a ‘what if?’ and, in a six year old, it seemed almost sweet whilst totally illogical.

But in you and me? Not so clever.

It reminded me of a Churchill quote I read on Facebook first thing this morning:

“The future’s uncertain. It’s a mistake to look too far ahead. Only one link in the chain of destiny can be handled at a time.”

Do the very next thing. Focus on and give head space to the very next step.

You won’t close the perceptual worry loop by trying to persuade yourself to stop worrying. It’s kind of like a double negative and they just don’t make any sense.

The only way to close the loop is to pretend like the loop doesn’t even exist and instead, decide what the very next piece looks like and do that.

You don’t have to know all the answers. You can take it one link at a time and wait and see how it plays out from there.

Sometimes it’ll mean things don’t quite work out how you thought they would but you know what? That’s ok! If you knew all the answers all of the time, what would that do to the fun?

Stop worrying about worrying about worrying and instead, take 10 minutes, right now, to decide what the next piece looks like, and do that.

In fact, why not get God in on the worrying piece, tell him what’s doing your head in and let him worry about it for you?

And then you can skip off into the rest of your day, one step at a time.

Ready? Let’s go!

loveel